My G-Rated Hot Buttons

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About seven years ago while I was visiting a friend, I noticed she had white index cards all over the house with different types of buttons on them. Curious as to what they were, I asked her about them. She quickly explained that they were thank you’s to her husband for pushing her hot button. I loved this idea for two reasons. First, it is a great way to say thanks to your special someone. Second, it is a great way to communicate to your spouse what love language you speak.

In honor of Valentine’s Day next Wednesday, I decided to create a list of the hot buttons my husband pushes … of course they are all G-rated, this is a family site . It kind of reminds me of the “Love Is …” comic strip by Kim Grove. In fact, Morning Glory of Seeds From My Garden did a cute post on that yesterday.

Without further ado, though, here is my list. Rudy pushes my hot button when:

1. He cleans up the house when I am out and about so when I get home everything is in order.
2. He comes to rescue me from 35 pound, almost two year old Cory when I am out walking the halls with him at church during our block of meetings.
3. He willingly and uncomplainingly lets me sleep in in the morning and he feeds the kids breakfast and unloads the dishwasher while I lazily snooze.
4. He randomly gives my an affectionate hug after the kids are in bed … once they are in bed I am not so easily distracted with 50 billion things I need to do and it feels good to enjoy the moment.
5. He remembers “Fleur Day” (August 7th) and surprises me with a beautiful bouquet of flowers.
6. He gently rubs my back or holds my hand while we are sitting on our ancient couch watching our shows together.
7. He lovingly and happily plays with the children. I love to listen to them laugh hysterically together.
8. He willingly defends me until he is blue in the face when I have had an emotionally draining day and I am not thinking the best thoughts of myself.
9. He calls during the day just to say “Hi” and to tell me he loves me … or when he slyly changes the wallpaper on my phone to a silly picture of him.
10. He folds the laundry and does other household chores while he lets me whittle away the hours blogging until my heart is content.
11. He writes me a long and heart-felt letter and gives them to me on special holidays. Sometimes it is a store bought card he writes on and other times it is just plain old lined paper.
12. He leaves me little “I Love You” notes that I find during the day.
13. He won’t let me change Cory’s dirty diapers or when he takes over feeding the picky man.

Of course I would never object if he pushed my future hot button of finding a sitter and then kidnapping me for a romantic night out with a little surprise gift waiting for me at the end … chocolate, jewelry, flowers anyone? One of these days when the pursuit of the PhD is in the past, he knows the exact anniversary band I would love to have .

You might ask what love language do I speak? I often have a difficult time figuring this out myself. I think it comes down to receiving unsolicited gifts, but I like to receive gifts in the forms of the other love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service and physical touch. I don’t want to be deficient in any one area. I guess I can be a bit complicated!

Above all, I am eternally grateful for my husband and for all he does for me!

What pushes your hot button … G-rated of course?

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I am always in the mood for some chocolate, so I am going to enter this post into Scribbit’s Write-Away contest to see if I can win the coveted Alaska Wild Berry Chocolate. This month the theme is “Love” and if hot buttons aren’t about love, then I don’t know what is .

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